Women and Porn
Posted On: 2016-04-21
If you take a look around mainstream media ... usually in the Lifestyle sections of some major newspapers ... you may notice that there is an increasing amount of chatter about women and porn.
Suddenly they are very interested in something that some savvy adult webmasters have known about for almost 20 years ... women are interested in porn ... women do want to watch porn ... women will spend money to see porn. Sadly, that's rather typical of mainstream media ... a bit late to the party.
We've known about that for nearly 20 years and there's more porn for women around than ever before but that doesn't mean that it's too late for you to join the party. However, if you do want to join the party you really should spend a little time learning some of the "rules" of porn for women because there may be some subtle differences in what appeals to men and what appeals to women.
You wouldn't waste your time and money going about this the wrong way so what does appeal to women and how big is the potential audience that might want to buy what you are selling?
Well it seems that Pornhub has looked at the data it collects on the 150 million people who visit the site every month and they have found that about a quarter of all those visitors are women.
Over 30 million women every month are looking at porn? That is a big audience and with numbers like that it could be well worth your while to target all those horny women ... but what appeals to them?
Now we are getting into what I believe is an area where the data may not necessarily be giving us what we are told is a true and clear picture of what we women really want to look at. Sometimes it's possible that those who interpret some of this data are actually looking at it through lenses that are possibly colored with their own preferences.
When you hear or read about what women want in porn you almost invariably see suggestions that women don't like the usual way that porn is presented because it makes women the objects of lust and depravity. Women are treated as things to be used and then thrown aside when men have finished with them.
I'm sure that some women do see porn in that way but I'm a woman and I don't see it like that at all ... and I doubt that I'm on my own here. I like to watch your average porn movie because I don't see the women as objects to be used and thrown aside.
I see the women as having power over the men in the movie. They make the guys cum and most guys are finished while the women can go on to as many other partners as they want to have.
But then maybe I'm just looking at porn through lenses that were colored by working in the sex industry. A guy could have maybe one or two good fuck sessions a night while a girl could go from one wild session to the next for hours ... and make a lot of money doing it.
Perhaps that makes the way I look at porn to be less valid. So what do the experts, who interpret the data, say about what women want to see when they look at porn?
Back in 2014 British Cosmopolitan magazine ran a survey that suggested that most of their readers who liked to watch porn were attracted to lesbian sex and that coincided with what Pornhub found. According to Pornhub ... one of your competitors ... most of their female visitors wanted to see lesbian sex too.
The Cosmo survey found that most of their respondents reported that porn had a positive impact on their sex lives too. Most of those respondents were put off by aggressive porn where the female actors were treated roughly, called sluts or bitches and acted as though they enjoyed it.
I can understand that porn can have a positive impact on their sex lives but the rest of it?
Hmmm ... maybe all those respondents did feel that way ... maybe they felt that they should feel that way ... maybe those who don't feel that way felt uncomfortable about responding to the survey ... maybe there are a lot of us who like our sex to be a little on the wild side and see nothing wrong with being called a slut.
Maybe some of us even slap, choke and dominate the guys we're fucking because it's all part of what great sex can be.
Sure, sex can be messy, clumsy, gentle and intimate ... all those soft things that women are supposed to like ... but it can also be wild and rough and a combination of pleasure and pain for everyone.
So if you want to target women as customers for your sponsors ... or for your paysites ... who do you listen to? Do you believe the data and only focus on lesbian sex ... soft, romantic male/female porn or do you go the other way?
As with all things in this industry, I guess you just suck it and see what tastes good.